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Three Modes of Inner Dialogue

I. Dialogue with 'the Folks' for Guidance and Support

With your energy running, and a question in mind for Spirit and the Mother, close your eyes and imagine you are in a place in nature, walking on a path. Feel the air on your skin, hear any sounds of this place, and notice the shapes and colors around you.

In the distance are the vague outlines of two figures, one masculine and the other feminine. These are visual representations of Loving Spirit and the Mother, the parental parts of the two transpersonal beings we call 'the Folks.' As you draw nearer, the figures move toward you, until you are all standing together.

Accept whatever images your imagination presents to you, and allow yourself to feel the Mother holding and supporting you so you can fall safely into her loving and supportive embrace. The light of Loving Spirit is all around both of you, and like the resourceful parental healer part, his energy is that of acceptance, appreciation and encouragement.

Say "Hello" to the Folks. Imagine telepathic communication... like in dreams where you can send and receive thoughts and feelings without having to speak. There may be words you can sense telepathically, there may be a gesture or even a feeling that lets you know the response to your greeting.

When you've said "Hello" and have received a response, ask "Is all right to ask some questions?" Note the response, and when you're ready, ask, "What can you tell me about _______ (the issue you're working on). Feel-listen, and sense the presence of Spirit and the Mother as they respond.

When you have received the answer to your question, ask a follow-up question. Ask their advice about how you can use this information in your daily life. ("What advice can you give me about this?" Or, "What do you suggest I do here by way of healing?") And again open to the response.

If there is something you don't completely understand, or the answer is still too vague to act on, ask another follow-up question to get more specific information, and then note the response.

Continue your communication as long as you like, and when you feel complete, thank them. Ask if you may return at another time to communicate again, and bid farewell. When you're ready, gently return to the place where you're sitting, and notice the feeling of your energy.

II. Dialogue with a Part of the Self

Inner dialogue with a part of yourself happens during the regression process. The loving inner healer as the 'director' communicates with the child who is having a traumatic experience. And with the inner dialogue technique, we can communicate with a part without doing regression.

For instance, if there is a habit or behavior that we want to change, we can speak directly with the part that is responsible for the behavior. In doing so, we can learn why the part has been doing what it has, and find a better way for the part to express itself and fulfill its purpose.

The protocol is to imagine what the part would look like if it had its own body (visual anchor). Next, say "Hello," and feel-listen for the response. Ask if it's okay to communicate, and then let the part feel your intention to help. At this point you can also use the Core Desire Outline to find out what the part desires at the deepest level. More options for doing 'parts' work are covered in the handout Working with Parts of the Self.

III. Dialogue with the Higher Self of Another

It is often useful in healing a relationship to communicate with the higher self of the other person. The 'higher self' can be imagined as an image of the person, but with a lot of light in and around them. With the anchor of the light as the spiritual and wise aspect of the person, say "Hello." Listen-feel for the response, and begin the dialogue with the question, "Is it okay to communicate?"

It's important to remember that you don't want to 'tell' the higher self about how you feel, etc. ­ but rather to ask questions so you can know more about what's going on with the other person, at the personality level. In talking, both you and the higher self will refer to the personality level in the third person. For instance, you may say, "What can you tell me about why Mary always seems so angry with me?" rather than, "Why are you always angry with me?" It's as if the higher self is another being who knows and loves the person, and of course can answer your questions about them.

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