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Fundamental Principles of Wholeness Work

1. Acceptance is the Essence of Healing

Healing happens when an emotion or a part of ourselves receives acceptance. Acceptance is love, and to heal to wholeness is to unconditionally accept all of our emotions and parts of self, regardless of how 'bad' they've felt, and how severely we may have denied them in the past.

2. The Inner Healer can Integrate the Self

Wholeness is possible when we identify ourselves as the responsible, loving and resourceful inner healer. With our loving acceptance, even the most traumatized parts can move back into wholeness with the rest of the Self.

3. Release Denial Energy

Judgment release and/or denial energy release are ways for the resourceful inner healer to take a stand for loving acceptance of every part of Self. Acceptance is the essential ingredient in the healing work. It is love moving to include. Our lost parts cannot return to us unless we are in acceptance of them. Denial is the opposite of acceptance and moves to exclude. Wholeness is inclusive and cannot manifest in the presence of denial, because whatever is being denied is excluded from acceptance by the would-be wholeness. Whatever form denial takes, it will consume any acceptance that attempts to include it.

4. I Am Responsible for My Experience

If I am having an experience, I am also the one responsible for generating it. When I am both the experiencer and the creator of the experience, I have closed the circle and am experiencing the essence of wholeness. If there is hurt, I am both the victim and the perpetrator. If there is love, I am both the lover and the beloved. I am not just the star of my movie, I am also the producer, director and script writer.

Otherwise, I am somehow experiencing myself as the effect of another's cause. If I am only the victim or only the perpetrator, I am only a fragment... and therefore not whole.

5. Identity is Fluid

Who am 'I'? This ancient question of self-inquiry is helpful in untangling any confusion about #3 above. Even in wholeness, we are not one homogeneous being. We are an assemblage of parts. And each of our parts believes it's the answer to "Who am I?"

The easiest way to stay on course in the healing work is to keep our identity fluid and flexible. Identity is a matter of personal choice. For instance, in the regression process we take turns being both the child experiencing a trauma, and the director as the resourceful healer. If we extend this fluidity of identity and don't permanently identify with any part, we won't get stuck being anyone or anything in particular. And then we can even at times experience being no one at all, the pure essence of our most true identity.

6. Consciousness in the Service of Sentience

Unlike nearly all other approaches to healing, in this work we are looking to our feeling parts for guidance and understanding about what is needed for their healing. Consciousness, the thinking, visioning, spirit part of awareness looks to sentience, the feeling, sensing, feminine part of awareness and asks... "How can I help?"

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