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Deep Practice for Healing to Wholeness

Once learned, the frames and tools of Process Coaching and wholeness work can be condensed into a few quick and easy steps that can be practiced any time. As when learning any new practice, you'll probably find this shortened version of the work easier to practice when in a resourceful state. However, once the steps are practiced and learned, this technique makes it much easier to work in present time with triggered emotions and physical issues.

This practice uses consciousness, the essence of mind to do something radically different than it has been conditioned to do in the presence of 'bad' feelings. Instead of following the ancient imprinted programming to get away from unwanted feelings and sensations by escaping into the mind (and its torturous thoughts about the feelings), we're now taking control of our own attention so we can focus on what we're feeling in the moment, staying present with and feeling into uncomfortable or previously unwanted feelings.

Rather than trying to confront the conditioned mind directly, in this practice we 'go under' the old programming. We take conscious control of our own attention to focus on the feeling and feel into it, where it is in the body. This is a practical application of consciousness in the service of sentience.

Many traumas have a shock component that often presents as numbness, 'spaciness,' wanting to sleep, etc. Depression is another example of a present-time experience of the shock associated with past emotional trauma. The shock that came to protect us from having to feel too much pain during the original trauma has become part of the imprint, and this still-present shock has usually prevented us from fully feeling the feeling before escaping into the mind.

The solution here is to simply feel under the shock, feel under the numbness. Say to yourself, "Now I want to feel the feeling that the shock has been protecting me from." Feel under the blankness of the shock and experience the feeling.

This practice is a good way to find and release otherwise hidden denial energy. The technique addresses all of the layers of the original trauma and its reenactments, including the roots at the deepest transpersonal levels.

The Practice

1. Feel a 'bad' feeling (either emotional or physical).

2. Locate it in your body.

3. Observe the feeling with curiosity, and begin to feel into the feeling. (As the Healer observing the feeling, you are separate from it. You're not becoming the feeling or identifying as it.)

4. Notice how the energy of the feeling feels in your body. Focus on the sensations of the feeling. Does it feel more hard or soft? Is the energy moving or still? Tight or loose? Is it warm or cool? Sharp or dull? Is there pressure?

5. As the healer, your attitude is that you want to know more about how this feeling actually feels in the body. In this way you are like the loving parent who wants to feel all of the child's pain so you can know what to do.

6. If mind comes into action here, if there are any thoughts or judgments, simply refocus on the feeling and feel under the thoughts and judgments. And then continue feeling into the feeling with interest and curiosity.

7. Ask yourself, "Am I comfortable feeling this feeling just as it is, without the feeling having to change in any way?" If so, skip step 8 and continue with step 9. If another feeling (such as fear) is preventing you from being comfortable, do this practice from the beginning with that feeling first, and then come back to the original feeling.

8. Release denial energy: If you are not comfortable with the feeling just as it is, ask yourself, "What kind of denial release would help me be more comfortable being with this feeling?" Do either a judgment release or deep denial release.

9. After any judgments or deep denial in the feeling is released, feel back into the feeling and notice any changes. Now while feeling the feeling, imagine a small child you once were is feeling this feeling. It's okay to just make it up, the child is only a metaphor for the feeling.

10. When something comes to mind, ask yourself: Is the child indoors or outdoors? Is the child standing? Sitting? How old is the child?

11. Now, in your present adult body, go on the scene and be there with the child. Get down to their eye level, and say "Hello." Open your arms and heart to the child and let them know you love them, just as they are.

12. If the child would like, pick them up and hold them. Allow the child to feel your love and acceptance for them, just the way they are. It's okay to take time here and enjoy the experience.

13. When the child is feeling your love, take an observer position so you can see there are two of you there, the child and the grownup. Now go into the position of the child. You are in the child's body.

14. You are little, and your grown-up self is loving you. Now feel what it's like to loved... just the way you are.

15. To finish, as the grown-up... look into the eyes of the child and see their beauty, innocence and greatness. And when you are ready, the adult holds the child so close you absorb them into yourself, one whole being. Rest in the love as long as you like.